Every relationship requires give-and-take between two people, this simply means both parties investing in each other and both getting something back from the relationship. However if one person is doing all the giving and the other just takes, then it isn't a relationship... at least not a fulfilling one. Have you ever gone above and [...]
Tag: failed relationships
Vulnerability: why we need to lean into discomfort.
Many people (myself included) find it incredibly difficult to be vulnerable, and judging from the numerous articles I've read, it seems to be a common fear. When we were young, we were carefree, rarely phased by anything; but over time factors such as our upbringing, our environment, our romantic relationships, our social circles gave us [...]
Red flags? No thanks, I want the green flags please.
Relationships play a massive part of our lives, I can't think of anyone who wants to waste their time being unhappy and unfulfilled with the wrong partner. Most of us have had our fair share of drama and disasters in the past; so it's understandable if someone enters a new relationship with a slightly pessimistic [...]
A story of conflict: Growing up with strict Asian parents and having an interracial relationship.
This is by far one of the most difficult posts I've ever had to write... it's a sensitive subject, an extremely personal account and still to this day evokes so many negative emotions as I type. I can literally feel my heart tightening along with a slight rise in my blood pressure when I cast [...]
“It’s nothing personal.”
Maybe it was a first date and they never followed up, maybe you've been seeing each other for a few months and they decided it's not going to work, maybe you finally plucked up the courage to ask them out and they weren't interested... While rejection is pretty much inevitable in some capacity, it still [...]
When the past becomes our present.
Old emotional wounds have many ways of inserting themselves into existing and new relationships. When this occurs, they can prevent a connection from blossoming or slowly pull at a relationship until one or both parties suffocate. Some of our deepest wounds often come from childhood, and others will make an appearance at a later point in [...]
Getting undressed with Riley and Damsel.
Over the last 3 months, I've had the opportunity to connect with a number of friendly, genuine and supportive people. The dating community on Instagram has got to be one of my best social media discoveries and I'm thrilled to be a part of it. There are so many talented writers, poets, artists, speakers and [...]
Is more less when it comes to dating?
Remember when choices were as simple as “regular latte” or “skinny latte”? These days it’s more like “decaf latte, double shot, caramel syrup, half-soy, half-oat, 180-degrees, no-foam, with a sprinkle of chocolate powder on top”. Let me tell you something... the online dating landscape is not too dissimilar! The challenge these days for many singletons, [...]
The courage to forgive.
It's easy to fall into a pit of despair, bitterness and grief when we've been deeply hurt. After someone has wronged us, the thought of forgiving them seems elusive. Where relationships are concerned, if we've been the victim of cheating, mental/physical abuse, being lied to or put up with toxic behaviour; these events will naturally [...]
Red flags: some people aren’t looking for love, they’re looking for help.
If I were to sit down and have a conversation with myself say… 6 months into each of my relationships, I would not only advise on what characteristics I needed to work on as a person but firmly tell myself to open my goddamn eyes and take a good look at what’s waving right in [...]
