Intuition or paranoia?

How do you tell the difference between intuition and paranoia? I have wondered this so much myself and I like to think I have an answer. Before I throw my thoughts out there, let me provide the definitions as they are remotely not the same thing… yet somehow many people manage to confuse the two. [...]

Platonic friendships: Can men and women really just be friends?

When it comes to this burning question, there are all sorts of views, some may even have an anecdote to share. In the 1989 movie, “When Harry Met Sally”, the writer Nora Ephron was exploring the exact question, “Can men and women be friends?” According to Harry (played by Billy Crystal), men and women can’t be friends [...]

The courage to forgive.

It's easy to fall into a pit of despair, bitterness and grief when we've been deeply hurt. After someone has wronged us, the thought of forgiving them seems elusive. Where relationships are concerned, if we've been the victim of cheating, mental/physical abuse, being lied to or put up with toxic behaviour; these events will naturally [...]

Red flags: some people aren’t looking for love, they’re looking for help.

If I were to sit down and have a conversation with myself say… 6 months into each of my relationships, I would not only advise on what characteristics I needed to work on as a person but firmly tell myself to open my goddamn eyes and take a good look at what’s waving right in [...]

Marriage or Mirage?

I’m not opposed to the idea of marriage. I'm just not bothered about it. I’m pleased for all my friends who have tied the knot and I hope they’re enjoying every moment of it… but the concept of marriage bears no significance to me, and I’ve held the same view since I was 16. Typically [...]

The grey area.

As much as I'd like them to be, most things in life are never black and white. I've discovered this is particularly true (more so over the last couple of years) when it comes to dating. The topic I'll be delving into for this post looks at that precise moment when you suddenly find yourself [...]